Do you get upset or feel as if you're not taking care of your partners needs if he/she masturbates or watches porn? I have never seen it as an issue, mainly because men and women have different libidos. I am well aware my partner (male) masturbates, mainly because his sex drive is stronger then mine. I'm ok with that. Wife masturbates husband, so what! Sometimes I will watch him, or even help him out. He will occasionally watch porn along with it, and I'm ok with that too. Again, I will watch with him. I want to make sure he knows I'm ok and he won't feel like he needs to 'hide' anything from me. I don't feel like I'm being neglected or rejected because he does this. I do the same sometimes, and the same from him, sometimes he watches or helps, and sometimes I will describe it to him as part of foreplay. A friend of mine, married for 25+ years, gets very upset and insecure if she 'catches' her hubby masturbating. And he is NO WAY allowed to watch porn, look at magazines, etc. She will even search the computer to see if he's been watching anything like that. A few years ago, she went on a business trip for 10 weeks, and was pissed that he masturbated while she was gone! He told her...lol....I don't know if that was a good idea. Am I the oddball, and her response is normal? I'm not sure. My partner isn't cheating, is open with me about what he is doing, and I have joined in from time to time. I don't see what there is to be upset about. What is your opinion of this? How do you handle it...is it an issue for you or are you ok with it?