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How To Give The Best Blow Jobs - Expert Fellatio Tutorial

This guide will teach you how to suck dick to make your man squeal and moan in pleasure. It's the ultimate fellatio guide every woman must read.
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    Finally, your personal guide to giving great blow jobs!

    Ladies, (and men too, this is not a gender biased article) here finally is your step by step guide to giving your partner the absolute best in oral sex. If you are shy or inexperienced, or maybe you just need a few pointers to get you out of a sexual impasse, look no further, these tips are designed to make anyone give head like a p0rn star. So get your mouths watering or grab your favorite edible lubricant and lets get started.
    Set the stage
    lingerie-mood-setting.jpg First off, get comfortable, there is nothing less appealing than a stiff, uncomfortable blow job and that goes for the person giving it as well as the person receiving.

    Your partner will pick up on it if you are not comfortable mentally or physically and neither of you will have a good time, so take the time to set the stage, and do what ever it is that makes you feel like a sex goddess.

    Put on sexy lingerie or an enticing perfume, wear a new shade of lipstick that draws attention to where the action will be and or set the mood with soft lighting and then your own light shine.

    Above all else enjoy. Enjoy your own body and sensations and know that the more pleasure you take in the act, the more your partner will respond in kind.

    A Little Foreplay
    foreplay-before-fellatio.jpg I personally like to start off slow especially if my partner is not fully erect yet. Many women think getting right down to it like it's shown in the movies is the way to go.

    Sure, that's fine when the guy is already erect and ready and wants exactly that, but otherwise spend some time on some foreplay, yes foreplay before the blowjob. It will make everything much better.

    Few passionate kisses and some lusty words would make him all tingly with anticipation. Whisper in his ear how you are going to eat him, tell him you cant wait to suck him and gently go down from his chest to his public area, all the while grazing your lips.

    My personal favorite is using my tongue to lick and tickle my partner's ears and telling him I want him so much and asking him if he will give 'it' to me. That totally puts most men in a wild mood.

    Do the foreplay right and you may well be rewarded with an erect throbbing dick when you go down. Some guys get only semi-erect but that's ok. You can take care of that...

    Build Anticipation, start slow...
    fellatio-tease.jpg But when you reach there, don't go straight to it. A great blowjob depends quite a bit on teasing your partner, make him wonder when your mouth will engulf his member. So try not to be predictable.

    Use your hands in the beginning and gently fondle for a while before jerking him more purposefully but gently. Try to be sensuous rather than rough.

    Make sure you have plenty of saliva going, nothing is worse than a dry mouth. If you can't work up enough saliva, try using an edible lubricant in a flavor you like. This will allow things to slide easily. You can put a little lube on your hands, then firmly grasp your partners penis and stroke it in a slow rythym until the lube is covering the whole shaft.

    Then gently move your mouth close to his penis but don't actually let it touch. Do this for a while. Then begin by grazing your lips on his tip once in a while. Kiss his penis and run your lips on the sides, but don't put his penis in your mouth...yet. Kill him with anticipation, till he begs for you to eat him up.

    Suck Time!
    deep-throat-blow.jpg You can also try putting a little lube on your lips like a lip gloss. Once everything is "slip, sliding away" start with shallow insertion of the penis in your mouth using your hand to guide it.

    While grasping the penis, lower your mouth as far as you can comfortably, being careful to keep your lips over your teeth so as not to accidentally graze and hurt your partner. Deep throating is not essential right off the bat, we'll get to that.

    Once you are in position and gently sucking your partners penis, develop a rhythm and try to stay with it for a bit. After a short time, change things up by holding the penis in one hand while cupping his testicles in the other.

    Now take the tip of your tongue and gently tease the head of his penis working your way down along the shaft and generally licking him like he was a penis shaped lollipop.

    Pay attention to the perineum
    This is the only time you will do anything even remotely close to "blowing" during a blow job. After licking your way down to the balls. Breathe warm air like you were trying to steam up a window, onto his balls, then cup them and with a bit more pressure than you used on the shaft, lick the perineum, (the area between the testicles and anus). This area is very sensitive and full of nerve endings but it is often overlooked in sexual foreplay.

    And the frenulum
    Did you know, the underside of the penis is more sensitive than the top. Most women think the head of the penis is the most sensitive. The head is very sensitive, but it is the frenulum that is even more so, particularly if foreskin is involved.

    You can call frenulum as the hotspot of the penis and one of the areas that can trigger orgasm. The frenulum is the spot where the shaft meets the glans on the underside of the penis just below the head.

    It is the male equivalent of the clitorus and you can call it the F spot. It’s very sensitive, so its best not to start there. Do not linger a lot there initially, reach that area with your kisses and nibbles towards it, the more gentle your touch, the more his pleasure.

    Also his testicles

    By now your partner should be fully erect and having a great time.. After licking the perineum (and don't do it for long--the area is sensitive and can easily be over sensitized by too much stimulation), take one testicle in your mouth and then the other, and suck ever so gently on them, one at a time. Men seem to enjoy it. At least the ones I've been with do.

    Keep tickling and caressing his testicles gently every now and then while you are sucking him, but be gently, a man's balls are delicate and vulnerable and can cause pain if handled roughly.

    Take it to the next level
    You are now ready to use just your mouth as a faux vagina. You want to completely relax your throat to minimize the gag reflex, but don't be dismayed if you do gag, a lot of men find this a turn on as it is an indication to them of just how big a penis they have.

    I have gone so far as to exaggerate gagging with men I know are turned on by it. Lower your head trying to keep the angle of his penis in line with your throat so that it goes down as deep as possible without hitting the roof of your mouth or the back of your throat. Take it as deep as you possibly can and then slowly draw back and repeat the process until you have a steady rhythm going.

    If your partner has an unusually large penis you may want to involve your hands. Apply a little more lube to the hand you are going to use and hold the penis firmly at the base. Now while your mouth is still on it, slide your hand and your mouth together in an ever increasing rhythm.

    Your partner should be giving you signs whether or not this is working for him and from them you should be able to tell what sort of rhythm works best for him. You can also use your other hand to either cup his balls gently, or to stimulate the perineum with moderate pressure.

    To change things up a little, vary rhythms, pressure and depth, letting your partner guide the process by his arousal level. Stop using your mouth for a moment and with just your tongue and lips tease the head of the penis.

    Wet your lips and trace their outline with the head of his penis. Tease his inner thighs with your fingertips, lips or tongue. Try different sensations by having a drink of ice cold water then putting his penis back in your mouth and above all else, relax and enjoy yourself.

    It is of utmost importance that your partner believe that you are having the time of your life sucking him off. Moaning and squirming around are always good indications that you are as turned on as he is.

    If your not shy about playing with yourself, by all means do. Men are very visual so soft lighting is superior to lights off. and don't hide yourself under the covers. Remember, your partner loves you and wants to be with you so don't get stage fright, let him see you do what you are doing to him and possibly to yourself. Or guide his hand to your clitoris and make him do the work, I bet he won't mind.

    To swallow or not?
    fellatio-swallow.jpg By now your partner should be getting ready to come. If not ask him what he would like you to do. There is no shame in asking in order to get results.

    Most men want you to swallow their cum and personally I don't mind, I prefer it to having it land on me or the furniture. If you don't like the taste, and I sure as heck don't, make sure that his penis is as far back in your throat as possible before he comes. This way it will bypass your tastebuds.

    If you really can't stand the idea of swallowing, ask your partner to tell you just before the crucial moment so you can finish it with a hand job, allowing him to come either on you or into a tissue. After a job well done, relax, its your turn, hopefully or just lie back and cuddle. You deserve it.

    More Tips...
    If it takes awhile for your partner to climax, take short breaks as you will definitely start to choke and gag in an uncomfortable manner if you continue for too long a time. During these breaks don't be afraid to use your hands, after all its what men do when they masturbate.

    Also, if your partner is the more vocal type, try talking dirty to him during these intermissions. Tell him how big his penis is and that it is too much to handle all at once that's why you need to catch your breath. |And as I said earler, men are very visual. A really good technique is to bend over him in a short skirt with no panties on, Have him lie so your ass is in the air right by his head and the view is of (well you know what the view will be from there) it will turn him on enormously.

    Let him do the talking. While giving head, let him talk dirty to you. Even if its not your cup of tea, act like his words are really turning you on by increasing your pace or moaning loudly. Some men get off by being a little rough.

    I personally don't mind having my hair pulled a bit or having my nipples pinched playfully while giving a blow job. But that is for you to decide. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with and don't let him do anything to you that you don't want done. Sex should always be consensual and a two way street.

    Last but not least, some STDs can be caught by having oral sex. If you don't know your partners history, or if you feel that you can't trust them, use a condom. There's an old saying that goes something like this......"A tisket a tasket, a condom or a casket." Your choice, play safe and don't let him talk you out of it.

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